The Concise Oxford English Dictionary makes me understand that a friend is a person with whom one has a bond of mutual affection, typically one exclusive of sexual or family relations. Also, a popular Ghanaian adage – show me your friend and I will show you your character – defines a friend as a person through whom your character is developed and defined.
How true is that person you call a friend?
A true friend however, is the one who stands by you in all your times of affliction, trial, and difficulty embellishing them with words of encouragement, and implanting in you a ‘can do’ attitude. A true friend, also, is the one who sees the best in you, even when you see yourself worthless, and has as his/her primary goal in your life to bring out that best in you, irrespective of challenges. He is the one who will see you in trouble and never pass you by. As a matter of fact, he is that one person who is scouting for the bad things in and around you to purge out before they become known cankers. He who tells you, ‘You can walk’, ‘You can fly’, and ‘You are well able and capable’, when you have no legs, wings, and disabled, is the true friend I expound today.
A Christian’s true friend is Jesus, the Nazarene, and all His acts and declarations have been nothing but a confirmation of who He is in our life. Job’s wife was never close to being a true friend, I guess you know that already. The Bible presents to us true friend in the person of Jesus, much more. Consider where He found Peter and his brother Andrew and what they were doing when he called them to follow Him. They were fishing for fishes and He saw in them ‘fishers of men’. They died in the hands of the men they were fishing to bring us the Good News. Likewise James and John. (Matthew 4:18-22)
Remember when Jesus saw that sinful tax collector whose sins were weighing him down on the sycamore tree? He said, “Zacchaeus come down from the Sycamore tree for your house have I come to visit.” – Luke 19:1-10. That is the kind of friend – true – we have in Jesus. Somebody who would lay us to rest six feet below the surface of the earth with an assurance of resurrection. That is the perfect definition of a true friend. These are but a few instances from the Bible of Jesus being a true friend.
Ameyaw Bernice puts the icing on the cake by summarizing everything into a quote, and I quote: A true friend is the one who sees and brings out the best in you. Value them for they are diamonds that are hard to come by. So, I entreat you today to call Jesus into your life because He is the only true friend that we have, and to be wary of people who claim to be friends, but are interested in making your strengths weaknesses.