INFLUENCE and INTEGRITY are the two great virtues that clothe the virtuous woman. Wherever her feet has trod, influence and integrity was seen all around her. Proverbs 31:25 “Strength and honour are her clothing : she shall rejoice in time to come”.
Oh I love influence! I long for a life of influence. Wherever I go, I am determined to leave behind an indelible mark in the hearts of men. I make sure that someway somehow I add value to the life of others, especially by attacking people’s mindset. Virtuous woman in the making, you too must be influential.
The Proverbs 31 woman is a woman of integrity. A woman of complete moral soundness: her conscience alone will not permit her to be immoral, let alone the word of God.
So influence is her strength and integrity her honour.
Some women have been made to believe that they will not have enough time for their husband and children if they get serious with their careers, dreams, or wealth creation. Many women have abandoned their aspirations with the sole reason of becoming good wives. This mentality, although profitable to those who followed it is not what the good book teaches. Because the Proverbs 31 woman was a successful business woman and a successful wife. The issue lies with how best a lady can keep her life balanced. Bible says false balance is an abomination and so my fellow ladies let’s invest time to discover how best we can keep all aspects of out lives balanced.
The virtuous woman was an international business woman and yet a successful wife. She began her fabric career with producing flax and wool from her field, then she spindled them into sashes, tapestry, scarlet and finally linen garments.
Her business was very progressive: from sewing for her household to sewing for her community folks and then exporting them to other nations via the merchants. “She makes linen garments, and sells them, and supplies sashes for the merchants” (Proverbs 31:24). Out of her profit she bought a field and started vineyard probably to start a brewery.
So you see? Heaven wants to see you reach your full potential, just be well balanced. There is an adage in Akan which literally translates “If your farms are many you still have to weed them all”. I have said it before; the success of a wife is primarily assessed from her home.
I personally believe that the husband of the Proverbs 31 woman was very supportive in his wife living her dream. So let no man stop his wife from fulfilling her aspirations, support her instead and guide her to live a balanced life.
The 14th characteristic of the virtuous woman is that she honours her husband.
Every woman must desire to be virtuous, and the Almighty God shall grant her a wise and faithful man for a husband, just like the Proverbs 31 woman. “Her husband is known in the gates, when he sits among the elders of the land” (Proverbs 31:23). The gates was a place where great men and elders gathered to take counsel, judge, and/or make decisions. Let me make it clear that the husband of the Virtuous Woman does not get appointment to sit among elders at the gates on account of his wife’s virtuousness but rather upon the merit of his own life. He was known at the gates for his wise contributions and excellent conduct.
So what then is the relationship between the virtuous woman and her husband being known in the gates? Good question! Now imagine that the virtuous woman’s husband has just finished making a submission among the elders and the old men stood up to salute, the young men covered their mouth and they asked one another “who is he?” And someone answers “Ah don’t you know him? He is Mad. Virtuous’s husband”. Here, the virtuous woman has become his crown, the icing on the cake making him more popular within the gates. All that they will be left to say is “Oh no wonder!”.
My lady, if you can picture this you will understand the need to pursue virtuousness with all alacrity. Don’t tear down the reputation he has taken time to build, add to his honour.
Men, there is work for you too: if you want to marry a virtuous woman then allow the word of God to build you, walk in God’s wisdom. Your mind must be as fertile as the womb of a woman.