Hear the conclusion of the whole matter, the greatest investment that any woman can make into her marriage and her family at large is DEVOTING HERSELF TO A LIFE OF VIRTUOUS LIVING as discussed the previous weeks. The returns from this great investment is A MEMORIAL OF PRAISE IN HIGH PLACES.
Give her of the fruit of her hands, and let her own works praise her in the gates. (Proverbs 31:31)
I pray that every lady runs this race of the virtuous woman, diligently completes it and attains her own crown of Glory.
#The secret of the virtuous woman
The saying that “beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder” is very true. Each man in his own eyes knows what beauty is, he knows which acts charms him. But Proverbs 31:30 says “Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain but a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised”.
When does a man proclaim that a lady is charming? It is when she enchants him with the way she talks, blinks, how welcoming and receptive she is, how she cut-walks, how she dresses and so on. It is her acts that charms. Unfortunately charm can be deceptive and that is when people say ladies can be very pretentious. Although it is not their nature, some ladies can portray very enchanting acts for years. They return to their real self after marriage which makes men to regret choosing them.
When a man closes his eyes in the cool of the night and sees her eyes, eyes that can warm the heart, her pointed nose, and her lips so tempting, her lovely curvatures, and so on… he whispers to himself “oh such beauty”. The reality is that, that kind of beauty is not permanent: it can be marred, damaged or even fade with time.
Like every woman, the virtuous woman is beautiful and her conduct is charming but the difference between her and the rest is her fear of the Lord. The fear for the Lord is her number one secret; fueling her charm and beauty.
EVERY VIRTUOUS WOMAN FEARS THE LORD! Fear the Lord and keep His commandments.
I present to you the exact words of the virtuous woman’s husband as he rendered his praise “many daughters have done well, but you excel them all”. This is found in Proverbs 31:29. If you are fortunate enough to go through life with a virtuous woman as your partner, please do not deny the lady her praise.
My dear lady, I agree with you that virtuous living is tough, but see, it is possible! Whatever that you are doing, do it as unto God and not unto man.
Permit me to borrow the words of J. H. Hitchens concerning people’s mindset of women. “Women are necessary evil. If there is any mischief you may rest assure that a woman has to do with it. It cannot be denied that the devil employed woman to accomplish the ruin of race; that by her he disturbed Abraham’s home and heart, cast innocent Joseph into prison, robbed Sampson of his strength, brought life-long trouble upon David, seduced Solomon into idolatry, caused John the Baptist to be beheaded and drove Paul and Barnabas from Antioch”. To this I say loudly to all you men and women out there that there still exist a galaxy of pure-minded, consecrated women who lived, are living and will live in the future. Get the veil off your face and search for these treasures.
Virtuous one, may you always be the Virtuous #1 on your husband’s ranking list.
If you ask me what phrase I’d love others to constantly say to me it is “THANK YOU”. I will not hold it against anyone who thinks otherwise but for me it means a lot. Do nothing else but say thank you and it’s enough for me. However, it is unfortunate that “thank you” isn’t a greeting. It comes as a result of a good deed done.
Someone may be wondering what at all is the reward for becoming a virtuous woman? I cannot say all but I know that the best that a man can do for you is to say “thank you”. According to Proverbs 31:28-29 the children of the virtuous woman rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her saying many daughters have done well, but you excel them all. Beautiful!
It looks too small a reward for all the sacrifices, huh? Were you expecting something else? 😊 Well let me remind you that you have not done more than fulfil a duty that God entrusted into your hands as a wife and a mother. Must a servant be praised for doing what is expected of her?
I know not of a better reward than being eternally adorned in praise by the lips of men. A reward, though not seen (for the things that are seen are temporal but those that are not seen are eternal) yet it will forever be cherished in the hearts of many lives.
A crown of praise awaits you! You will be celebrated for your sacrifices. Keep on keeping on!
The Bible verse in Proverbs 31:27 is represented with the Hebrew word “Tsade”. Tsade means a small swath: a path. This introduces us to the 18th characteristic of the virtuous woman as a REAL GODLY ROLE MODEL.
Bible entreats all believers to live lives worthy of emulation. This, has the virtuous woman made manifest in her life and now it has become her very nature. Her current state in life is so charming that it draws others to journey on the very path she has trod. Am talking of A REAL GODLY ROLE MODEL which will eventually lead to a glorious state of “virtuousness” . People have diverse reasons as to who they make their models and why. But let us consider Ruth and Naomi in the Bible, I believe Ruth did not decide to follow Naomi just out of determination but also due to something peculiar she saw in her (Naomi). She left everything to follow her path even unto death “… where you die I will die, and the I will be buried… “(Ruth 1:16-17).
What swath is your life creating and to what end? Let it be your desire and your prayer to forever live a life that will be an example unto others. You might be the only living epistle that someone will read.
INFLUENCE and INTEGRITY are the two great virtues that clothe the virtuous woman. Wherever her feet has trod, influence and integrity was seen all around her. Proverbs 31:25 “Strength and honour are her clothing : she shall rejoice in time to come”.
Oh I love influence! I long for a life of influence. Wherever I go, I am determined to leave behind an indelible mark in the hearts of men. I make sure that someway somehow I add value to the life of others, especially by attacking people’s mindset. Virtuous woman in the making, you too must be influential.
The Proverbs 31 woman is a woman of integrity. A woman of complete moral soundness: her conscience alone will not permit her to be immoral, let alone the word of God.
So influence is her strength and integrity her honour.
Some women have been made to believe that they will not have enough time for their husband and children if they get serious with their careers, dreams, or wealth creation. Many women have abandoned their aspirations with the sole reason of becoming good wives. This mentality, although profitable to those who followed it is not what the good book teaches. Because the Proverbs 31 woman was a successful business woman and a successful wife. The issue lies with how best a lady can keep her life balanced. Bible says false balance is an abomination and so my fellow ladies let’s invest time to discover how best we can keep all aspects of out lives balanced.
The virtuous woman was an international business woman and yet a successful wife. She began her fabric career with producing flax and wool from her field, then she spindled them into sashes, tapestry, scarlet and finally linen garments.
Her business was very progressive: from sewing for her household to sewing for her community folks and then exporting them to other nations via the merchants. “She makes linen garments, and sells them, and supplies sashes for the merchants” (Proverbs 31:24). Out of her profit she bought a field and started vineyard probably to start a brewery.
So you see? Heaven wants to see you reach your full potential, just be well balanced. There is an adage in Akan which literally translates “If your farms are many you still have to weed them all”. I have said it before; the success of a wife is primarily assessed from her home.
I personally believe that the husband of the Proverbs 31 woman was very supportive in his wife living her dream. So let no man stop his wife from fulfilling her aspirations, support her instead and guide her to live a balanced life.